Why Are You So Happy All the Time?

ascendmindsetcoach1
May 30
3 min read

"Hey Becca, why are you so happy all of the time?"

One of my peers in coach training asked me that. My answer? Because I choose joy every day.

But what does that actually mean? Choosing joy, every single day? It might sound fake, impossible, or naive. It might even sound like I'm pretending nothing is ever wrong.

Here’s the truth: I choose joy even when things are hard. I choose joy even when there is heartache. I choose joy even when life feels unfair or overwhelming.

That doesn’t mean every day is easy or cheerful. Some days are heavy. Some moments are painful. Some situations are uncomfortable and uncertain.

You can't avoid pain. Or grief. Or mistakes. They are part of being human.

What changed my life was how I began to think about those things.

Pain reminds me that I’m still alive.

Grief reminds me that I have loved deeply.

Mistakes show me the lessons I still need to learn.

We are here to experience the fullness of life. Its beauty. Its chaos. Its surprises. If everything were always perfect, we wouldn't even notice it. Without contrast, the beautiful becomes ordinary.

I used to be sad most of the time. I used to believe life just happened to me. I used to think I wasn’t lovable. I used to feel like a victim.

And I was really good at feeling sorry for myself.

But that mindset didn’t help me grow. Eventually, I decided I didn’t want to feel miserable anymore. So I started to shift.

It didn’t happen overnight. It took time. Honestly, it took decades.

This is an outward expression of what's in my heart on a daily basis

And I’m still learning. I still have so many areas where I want to grow. But now, when challenges show up, I don’t feel defeated. I feel curious and hopeful. Now I think, “Ooo, here’s another way I get to grow.”

Choosing joy means taking ownership of your story. It means deciding to live as the main character. It means making choices based on love and possibility, not fear or comfort.

My life started to transform the moment I realized I create my reality in each moment. When I say “my life,” I mean my daily experience. My present. The now.

This wasn’t the blog I planned to write today. But it’s what came out. And I believe that means someone needed to hear it.

Maybe that someone is you.

If it is, I hope you let these words settle in your heart. I hope something clicked. I hope you feel a little more hopeful than you did before.

You are capable of so much more than you know.

Start looking for the magic and you’ll begin to see it everywhere. Start believing in yourself and notice how far you go. Start giving love without holding back and feel how deeply it returns to you. Start choosing joy, and joy will begin to choose you too.